Divorce, Child Custody and AdoptionPalm Springs, California, Divorce, Child Custody and Adoption LawyerIf you are considering filing for divorce, take a moment to think about how important it is to hire a Palm Springs, Coachella Valley family law attorney who is local. Your attorney will need to understand what local family law judges will think is important for your settlement and for your children. For more than 30 years, AV rated* attorney John Patrick Dolan has been providing sound legal advice and representation for residents of Indio, California, and communities throughout the Riverside County region. We are confident that we can help you resolve all of your divorce, child custody and visitation issues fairly, efficiently, and without destroying your relationship with the other parent of your children. We guarantee our efforts to work toward the best possible settlement and outcome for your divorce settlement, child custody, and visitation agreement. DivorceDivorce, or dissolution of marriage, is when a court declares that the marriage no longer exists. It provides for division of property and details for child custody and support, when applicable. More than 95% of all divorces are not contested. Most partners try and settle the division of property, spousal support, and child custody either by themselves or with the help of a qualified attorney. Sometimes when problems arise, mediation is used and once agreement is reached, it is presented to a judge. If the agreement is fair to both parties, it will be approved. If an agreement cannot be reached, the court will have to decide on what is fair. The party initiating the divorce must show grounds for divorce in the papers filed with the court. All states offer no-fault divorces and some also offer fault-based divorces, as follows: A no-fault divorce is when neither the wife nor the husband blames the other for ending the marriage. Examples are "irreconcilable differences," or "incompatibility." Another example is when the two parties have been separated for a long period of time, this includes separate residences. Some people are concerned that no-fault divorces can result in lower awards of property and support Should this Divorce take Place?Seeing a marriage counselor when the marriage starts to fall apart is usually a good idea. Marriage counselors can help in many cases, but cannot save all marriages. The decision to divorce usually is not an easy one. In the end, it is based on strong emotional, feelings, logic, and intuition. If you are considering divorce, you might want to make a list of pros and cons in the marriage. The list should include what you like or don't like about your spouse, how it will hurt the children, financial obligations, and every-day issues. Include in this list all your future goals regarding a mate, your children, and your life. Go through this list many times and see if a divorce will enhance your life or interfere in it. A good idea is to keep a diary on day-to-day occurrences and look at it after a couple of months to see the overall picture. Are there more bad days than good ones? Does the same thing happen over and over again? These are questions you must be able to answer to determine if divorce is necessary. These diaries can sometimes be used in court. They can also be protected under your right for privacy. The decision of whether or not to divorce comes down to the question: "Am I better off with my spouse or without my spouse?" When answering, you must think about how your total life will be affected after the divorce, not only about your feelings towards your spouse. Is this situation causing depression (not sleeping, no energy, always sad, can't focus on daily tasks), it is probably a sign leaning towards divorce. Also, if you are frequently ill and having anxiety attacks, this also means you should consider divorce. Professional help should be considered at this time. No communication is most often the number one problem for many couples. •· Try talking about your feelings with your spouse. Focus on each other's feelings. Discuss what makes each of you happy and what makes each of you angry. Each person should talk for a few minutes without being interrupted. •· Sometimes, depending on how you were brought up, it is difficult to express your innermost feelings with another person. If you want your spouse to know what's bothering you, you must communicate with each other. •· Talk nicely - no name calling, no accusing. This will not solve the problem. •· If the conversation starts heating up, leave the room, take a deep breath, take a few minutes to cool down or wait until the next day to talk again. Avoid verbal anger! It will most probably take a long time to see what's gone wrong. Sometimes it stems from relationships with parents at an early age. People are sometimes drawn to other people who have characteristics in common with their parents, usually the bad ones. The best reasons to get a divorce are: an abusive spouse, one who is addicted to alcohol or drugs, obsessive gambling, or mentally disturbed. Oftentimes professional help can help this marriage, but the spouse must promise to continue to get professional help until the problem goes away. Changing for a few days is not enough to save this marriage.
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